Ask Lily Beth ☞ Children to Baby & Wedding Showers

“I am a Dallas native and have more or less lived here my whole life. I have just entered the phase in life where I have 2.5 wedding and/or baby showers per month. Here in lies my question: a lot of my friends who are not from Dallas, bring their babies or young children to these events; I find this inappropriate, am I out of line in feeling that way? I find that the babies take away attention from the real focal point of the celebration — the soon to be bride or mother. What is protocol? And if my friends try to bring their children to a no-kids event, how do I delicately suggest otherwise?”


Planning a Wedding Registry

I think we’ve all heard the story about when Lily Beth moved into Jack’s rumbling old Victorian house and discovered that, while all the appliances were brand new (Thank you, Jesus!), the only actual “home goods” were as follows: 1 couch (left by previous tenant) 1 computer chair 1 bed (one set of linens, washed … Continue reading

Alternative bachelorette parties

Recently, myself and four of my closest girlfriends from college flew halfway around the globe as bridesmaids in another friend’s wedding. We’ll call her Alice. We all come from feminist theory backgrounds – indeed, that’s how we met and became so close. And we were prepared for long flights, hot temperatures, customs delays, and bridesmaids … Continue reading

Unique Wedding Gifts

Wedding season is officially upon us, if you haven’t guessed by all the wedding-related posts lately. If there’s anything more complicated than your own wedding, it’s buying gifts for other people’s weddings. Now, let me begin by saying that this is why wedding registries exist. If you don’t know where they’re registered, ask the mother … Continue reading

Ask Lily Beth ☞ More Sticky RSVP Situations

You know, the over-whelming majority of search results for WhatWouldJackieDo (somewhere around 75%) are from people looking for the polite way to handle particularly sticky RSVP situations. So remember – you are definitely not alone out there. Also remember: any time you write in, I’m giving you an alias, just in case. Geneva writes: My … Continue reading

Ask Lily Beth ☞ An alternative to groomsmen boutonnieres

So Isabel writes: I am having a major dilemma over boutonnieres for my wedding. I don’t like them, but I want to make sure the groom stands out. I want him to look very “Mad Men” with a black suit, white pocket square. Do you think if the best man and fathers wear one in … Continue reading

Ask Lily Beth: Declining a Wedding Invite post-RSVP

A cousin of mine is getting married in two weeks.  Meanwhile, I am one month fresh into a separation/divorce.  At the time, I was under the rsvp deadline pressure to reply.  Not only did I accept the invitation, I replied with guest. I am not particularly close with this cousin and just cannot get excited … Continue reading

Table Manners 101: A Primer

Recently, I attended a rehearsal dinner because (a) my husband was a groomsmen to the wedding, and (b) I was the wedding coordinator. The couple getting married happened to be good friends of ours, and so we knew most of the bridal and groom’s party. One of the groomsmen was a particularly good-looking young man … Continue reading